July MamaBlogga Writing Group - Thanks Mom!
posted in Meme |I am going to participate in the July Writing Group from July Mamablogga.
I have read the posts from this writing group before, but never actually submitted in time to join in. Well, here I am in time, so what the heck.
This month they are writing about things that they appreciated about your mom or mother-in-law a “Thanks, Mom” post. It is no secret that I don’t have a close relationship with my mom. In fact, it is as far from close as it can get, we don’t speak.
I do appreciate some of the things my mom did for me when I was a kid though. She wasn’t very predictable growing up, one thing would get you in trouble one day and get you praise the next. I never knew what was coming and going. This was stressful to me.
What I did appreciate at was the one day every term in school. She would take me to the livestock auction and shopping. A “vacation” day from school. She always said that teachers got them and it was only fair that we get them too. This was one thing that was very predictable every term, which was 2 days a year.
I love going to the livestock auction. I think it was partially that I liked one of the guys that worked there (wouldn’t admit it then) and also because I like livestock auctions. I still do. I like watching the animals be sold and pondering about there previous lives. I try not to think about their future lives, but the lives that they had lived to that point. I wonder about the people that are buying them. The sort of scruffy looking folks with thousands of dollars to spend on a limping cow. It is still fascinating to me to this day.
I don’t like shopping so much. I did like the big mall in Erie though and that is where we would go. It made me feel small and there were so many people, each hustling and bustling with there usually 5 or 6 sales bags. I myself probably had acquired a few of my own to drag around with me. It seemed like I always got my best purchases done on these days. I liked the people watching though. I don’t so much anymore, but back than this was a good day.
I always looked forward to this day with mom. I would plan it for months. It was the light at the end of the “whatever”. It was that stress-free day that I always looked forward to. I wasn’t going to be picked on that day. I think every kid should have this day at least twice a year with there mom. The day without stress doing whatever is wanted to be done.
So, Thanks Mom.
PS….a sidenote:
(I am pretty sure she reads this site, but she has never left a comment or indicated in anyway to me that she does read it. I see the ISP from up there on my stats though.)
Comment by Jordan (MamaBlogga) — Comment #5 — July 23, 2007 @ 12:07 pm
I’m sorry you’re not close with your mom now, but I’m really glad that you’re able to still find something that you appreciate in your relationship! Thanks for participating!
Comment by Robin — First Comment — July 23, 2007 @ 12:41 pm
I’m sorry your relationship with your mother isn’t a good one, but I admire the way you’ve been able to seek out the positive.
Comment by Skittles — Comment #44 — July 23, 2007 @ 12:46 pm
My heart breaks for the little girl inside of you that never had consistent love from your mom.
Comment by Jennifer — Comment #747 — July 23, 2007 @ 10:12 pm
Awww! Ladies, you are all so sweet. My life is so great. I don’t regret stuff. I don’t need felt bad for or anything like that. This is the wonder and beauty, and all of life mixed in.
Comment by Mommy Babble — First Comment — July 24, 2007 @ 2:27 pm
A great post. Thank you for sharing it.
Comment by Kymberlyn — First Comment — July 24, 2007 @ 6:16 pm
Great post. I am sorry you and your mother are not on good terms now. Hopefully your post will inspire her to reflect on the time she spent with you.
Comment by Lynnae (From Under the Clutter) — First Comment — July 24, 2007 @ 7:44 pm
I’m sorry you aren’t very close to your mom. It’s great that you can appreciate the good things from your relationship. Thanks for sharing!
Comment by Jill — Comment #2 — July 25, 2007 @ 9:16 pm
I also really respect that despite a difficult relationship you have chosen to focus on a positive. The only person we hurt when we are negative is sadly ourselves.
Comment by Jennifer — Comment #747 — July 25, 2007 @ 9:25 pm
Thanks ladies. I am glad to be able to contribute to this group this month.
Comment by Corey — First Comment — July 27, 2007 @ 12:24 am
I am glad to see your positive outlook on life. I enjoyed reading your thoughts here.
Comment by Christine — Comment #4 — July 28, 2007 @ 2:01 am
I had a similar relationship with my mother. We’re not as close as I’d like us to be, but like you, I’ve found positive things about our relationship.
This is my first time to your blog, and I’ve bookmarked it to come back later.
Comment by Jennifer — Comment #747 — July 28, 2007 @ 6:55 am
Thanks Corey and Christine. Yes, please do come back. You are always welcome in here.
Comment by Daisy — Comment #2 — July 28, 2007 @ 10:57 pm
Despite your current lack of mom in your life, you are an amazing woman to look beyond the negative and remind us of a consistently positive experience you could count on twice a year.
Comment by Jennifer — Comment #747 — July 29, 2007 @ 12:28 pm
I’m not that amazing. I am just over being hurt. It is like it is all settled and over. I know where I am in life.
Comment by southerngirlmusings — First Comment — July 30, 2007 @ 11:40 pm
Thanks for sharing about your childhood vacation days with your mom, I think they are a neat idea. If I must confess, I do like livestock auctions and the closest thing is the couty fairs in the late summer, early fall…I can’t wait.